It’s The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year…

It’s fair to say that Wham penned a classic when they wrote ‘Last Christmas,’ each year we listen to the lyrics played out over the airwaves and it resonates with many of us spending Christmas in an unhappy relationship. With New Year brings renewed hope that we can leave behind what is no longer working for us. It’s no wonder that January is the busiest time of the year for separating couples wanting to make this year better than the last. But how do we do it amicably…

  1. Be clear – what led to the decision to separate?
  2. Be kind – not all couples will be on the same page at the same time.
  3. Be candid – let your ex-partner know what it is you want.
  4. Be considerate – listen to what their needs are.
  5. Be responsive – remember to then acknowledge each other needs.
  6. Be respectful – when you disagree take time apart but re-engage.
  7. Be optimistic – believe that you can resolve disputes and you will.
  8. Be flexible – you may not get exactly what you want but neither may they.
  9. Be bold – separation can be scary for many couples both financially and as a parent. More often women crave financial security and men crave parental security.
  10. Be sensible – INSTRUCT A FAMILY LAWYER – they are there to help guide you as to how you should be dividing assets, resolving disputes and in making arrangements for your children. If your separation is amicable they can represent you both and provide open and honest advice which saves costs and brings down barriers.

This January we know the cost of living crisis will be hitting hard. If you need advice or support with a relationship breakdown please do not hesitate to contacts us. We will be offering a discounted first appointment fixed at £100+VAT for an hour with one of our specialist Family Team. There to help you make sense of a separation.

Contact Kerry at Kerry.rowell@rudlingsllp.co.uk or Laura at laura.savage@rudlingsllp.co.uk for help and support.

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